Number 3: ‘Your priorities have changed’.
Narcissists are both envious and jealous. But they usually also want their partners and children all to themselves. They are not happy with the idea that their partners or children can find happiness outside of them. So, they will say this phrase to make it seem like you are neglecting not just them but the family unit as a whole. Therefore, if they think your job, studies or friends are bringing you too much success or happiness, it will displease them greatly. They want to make you feel guilty for trying to succeed or be happy with other people. They would prefer it if you only have them and live out your life in misery.
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Number 4: ‘I am sorry that you feel that way’.
This is the Narcissist’s lame attempt at an apology. They are basically not sorry for what they said or did. Neither are they even sorry for how they made you feel. They are trying to tell you that you are the issue. You need to sort your feelings out because the delusion they want you to embrace is that they have done nothing wrong.
Number 5: ‘Look at everything I have done for you’.
Narcissists are only good at remembering two things, the good they have done for you and any bad you have done to them. That is why it is not difficult for them to convince others or themselves that they are either the hero or the victim but never the perpetrator. Every favour, every gift, every kind word or gesture they have done for someone is never without expecting something in return. Even if it is to just throw it back in your face to get you to do something for them later on. Their favours or kindness is to make you feel guilty about ever telling them no. They would even try to convince you that everything you have is because of them. And they own you now because of it.
Number 6: ‘You are pointing out my faults, what about yours?’
This is typical of Narcissists to take the focus off their negative behaviours and try to put someone else in the spotlight. It is never acceptable to address the Narcissist’s issues. They are only happy to talk as long as necessary about other people’s issues. In their delusional minds, everyone else is the bad guy. Everyone else needs fixing but not them.
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