The connections that they used to have are gone, they’re completely isolated, perhaps they’re financially struggling or even bankrupt because of the narcissist. And the victim, in this scenario, is thinking that there’s some sort of amount that’s going to be like: Once that amount is reached, then everything is going to level out. And there is no such level, there is no such a goal to be achieving. The narcissistic goal is just to simply take all that you have and that is exactly what often happens.
So you give yourself completely emotionally; you’ve given up all of your time, you’ll give up even all of your finances, all of your connections, and relationships with other people so that you can completely focus on the narcissist, and it’s never good enough. And so by the time that you recognize that this is what’s happening, it’s already become a pattern of behavior for you, so you’re already doing that stuff regularly to where it’s now a compulsive activity.
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And without even thinking about it, you’re doing that behavior, you’re doing those activities. This is why, especially in the beginning stages of new relationships, it’s really important to take a look and recognize the things that you are doing, and have strong boundaries for yourself because the boundaries are going to not only keep out what you don’t want, but it’s going to keep in what you do want. And you do want to have your sense of self, you do want to have your connections that you have right now with your friends and your family. You want to maintain those things, and boundaries help make sure that all of those things stay in order.
These games, these tests that I just explained in this article are the ways that they see how much of those blank spaces they have the ability to pencil in themselves that they can just set their standards in those spaces, and how firm are your boundaries. They’re always going to be testing your boundaries, and to see how you respond when those boundaries are tested as well.
So I hope this article helps you. I hope you understand that there absolutely are tests that the narcissist will implement in order to decide whether or not you’re going to be a good supply. Whether or not you are the ideal target for ending up in whatever for giving the narcissist whatever it is that they want out of the relationship, and whether or not they ultimately pick you as the victim or choose another target.
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