But also, if you obsess about the narcissist and try to play their game of tit for tat, the narcissists will be up for the challenge and it will make them feel good about themselves to realize that you are stuck. It gives them satisfaction to know that you are too damaged to be repaired, that you are bitter, angry, and hungry for revenge.
These negative emotions will stop you from truly healing and moving on, but also, these negative emotions can cause you to attract further negativity into your life. So when I talk about being better off after narcissistic abuse, it calls for a total renovation of your mind and emotions, self-development on all levels. As I always say, strong mind, strong body, strong spirit.
On the flip side of the coin, when a narcissist comes in contact with a past victim who is healed on all levels and blossoming with new life, it dampens their mood. Of course, they may pretend to be all smiles and even fake delight in seeing you in a better state, but inside, they are raging and fuming because after a narcissist has endeavored to destroy you and ruin your reputation relationships and with you of your light, nothing bothers them more than when they realize you have risen from the ashes. It disturbs them when they realize you have moved on to better and brighter things. It angers them when you live as though they don’t matter or even exist in your world.
In many cases, they will hide these true feelings but be rest assured, you have disturbed them beyond measure. So do expect when this happens that the narcissists may come snooping around trying to get a piece of that action. Shutting them out and not giving them the time of day will add insult to injury and make them wish they may have treated you differently all kept you around.
But we are already aware of the dangers of allowing a narcissist back into your life. Despite all good intentions, they will default back into destruction mode but will be ten times more careful to keep you off the scent with their love bombing. When you happen to have a run-in with an old narcissist and they realize you are better off, the less you interact with them, the better, as you don’t need their approval attention, or validation in any way.
Instead, blind them with your progress and light and leave them groping for you in the dark because narcissists can only wish to have what we have, and experience life and love the way we do, and that is why envy consumes them.
Your survival, your strength, your happiness, your healing after narcissistic abuse is the best revenge. So protect your peace, protect your spirit, and let your light shine.
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