5. Anger.
If you go no contact with the narcissist, they may become angry that they didn’t have the opportunity to break it off with you first. Because narcissists fixate on Revenge, they may Hoover you until you take them back only to dump you and then go no contact with you. Because in their mind, how dare you go no contact with them before they had a chance to properly take you through the idolization, devalue, and discard stage. They do this to gain control and make them feel like they now have the upper hand.
In some cases, The Narcissist may not contact you after you go no contact, instead, they may simply move on to the supply they’ve been grooming in the background, especially if they were about to discard you anyway. However, even though they’re not contacting you, it will likely not prevent them from checking all your social media accounts to keep tabs on you while they’re entertaining their new Supply. Even narcissists that don’t appear to be very active on social media, are likely checking on you to see what you’re up to, hoping that your life has been miserable since you left them.
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The worst thing a narcissist can see is you thriving after the relationship is over. The Narcissist may also not contact you after you’ve got no contact if they sustained a severe narcissistic injury. In these instances, they may disappear for good. They disappear because of the shame you made them feel. If you expose their real self in some way, the shame may be too great for the narcissist to handle. Shame is a major reason narcissists struggle to maintain relationships, and if you’ve pierced their fragile sense of self in some way, it may be too triggering to ever contact you again.
In both instances, if the narcissist doesn’t contact you after you’ve gone no contact, consider yourself lucky. In case you didn’t notice a theme here, narcissists will do a whole lot but none of it will be tied to missing or loving you as a person. Sure, they miss the attention they got from you, the material things you supplied, and they may miss the way you make them feel about themselves, but they never really miss you as a person. All the reactions are tied to getting you back under their control to fulfill their needs.
A narcissist can manipulate you into believing they’ll change but this change will only be short-lived and likely only last long enough to rope you back in. ( Read here why the reasons why the narcissist won’t change) They’ll eventually take you back through the same behaviors that made you go no contact in the first place. Now that you understand some of the tactics The Narcissist may use when you go no contact, continue to move forward and continue to educate yourself about narcissism. This will not only help you heal but it will help you see the warning signs and other relationships moving forward.
Read More: 3 Tactics Narcissists Use To Get You Back.
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