4. Win you back.
Something else The Narcissist may do if you go no contact is be an utter disbelief that you’re gone for good. They’ll think that you’ll come back like you always do, they believe that they can always sweet talk you into changing your mind, especially if you’ve taken them back in the past. So, they’ll do the same things they normally do to win you back. When this doesn’t work, then they may step away briefly and give you just a little more time to come to your senses.
For More: 4 Things Narcissists Do When They Are Done With You.
In their minds, they’ll think, why wouldn’t you want to be with them? Because they never take responsibility for their actions, they’ll think that they couldn’t have possibly done anything so wrong that you’re gone for good. And even if they did, it was really your fault. Besides, you belong to them, who do you think you are leaving? That’s their job. If you go no contact with the narcissist and their usual tricks to win you back don’t work, they may try to be really nice to you by sending flowers to your job, sending money to your cash app, finding you a thoughtful gift, or following through on something you’ve asked them to do in the past. I talked about what the narcissist does to get you back here.
Recommended: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
They do this to try and elicit those same feelings you once had during the love bomb. This also falls in line with the law of reciprocity, in which we feel obligated to pay back what we receive from others. The Narcissist may not know the psychology behind it, but they do know that if they give you something, you may be more inclined to accept a call from them, to at least say thank you for the kind gesture. Once you do this, they are hoping that they can win you over once again.
Related: 6 Rumours Narcissists Like To Spread About You.
If the narcissist can’t get you to respond after being really nice, well then on the flip side of that they may be really mean… sending you random messages from random numbers saying something outrageous about you… causing you to want to reach out to them to defend yourself. The goal in this interaction is to get you to react. Good attention or bad attention, it doesn’t matter to them, but knowing that they can still make you react is all the fuel they’ll need to know they still have some level of control over you.
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