2. Supply.
Narcissists are addicted to receiving admiration and attention because it boosts their weak sense of self and their lack of self-esteem. Being without it is like an addict without their drug of choice. Narcissists need Supply in order to function. If the narcissist loses you suddenly, who will be there to listen to their stories, admire them, stroke their ego, and make them feel special? Not having a supply available to constantly fill up the emptiness they fill inside will definitely make them desperate to fill the void you left behind when you went no contact.
They will frantically search for a replacement Supply. If they didn’t have a new Supply already lined up to take your place, then they’ll resurrect an old flame or recklessly reach out to a short-term temporary Supply until they can secure someone who more aligns with their needs, someone who can give them as much attention, admiration, and love as you once did.
3. Another tactic The Narcissist may use if you go no contact is to contact you with gossip about some random person.
They may say something like, “I know you’re not talking to me but I wanted to tell you what happened to Jim.” They don’t really care what happened to Jim, and you probably barely even know Jim that they’ll use this as a segue into the conversation, using your compassion for people against you to get you to open up. Once you respond, they’ll likely never mention Jim again because the real goal was to make you break no contact, not their concern for Jim.
Read More: What Happens When YOU Leave The Narcissist First.
It’s not uncommon for a narcissist to show up at your house, your place of work, or a place they know you frequently if they can’t get you on the phone, text, or on social media. If you ever feel unsafe, call the police and file a restraining order immediately. Unfortunately, some narcissists can resort to violence, and if you feel like you may be in danger, definitely reach out to the authorities.
In other cases though, they may just feel like it’s easier to get you to communicate with them face-to-face. It’s harder to not respond to someone when you’re in their presence. If they can get you to talk to them for just a second, they may be able to guilt-trip you into taking them back or at least get you to hear them out.
Recommended: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
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