3. Guilt, guilt, and more guilt.
Narcissists are always happy to try and make you feel guilty for your decisions, thoughts, and actions. They won’t hesitate to use this manipulative technique when you’re threatening to end the relationship. They will usually begin by reminding you about how much they’ve done for you or all the great times you’ve had together.
Once it’s clear that positive reminders aren’t working, they will likely then resort to attacks that devalue you. They will project any complaints you’ve made about them back onto you. If you have complained about their selfishness, they will accuse you of the same thing. If you give in to these tactics, the narcissist will continue to make you feel powerless through your guilt, and that can keep you in the relationship for a far longer time than you had wanted.
4. Demand your attention even after the breakup.
You might be planning on never seeing your ex again, but if he or she is a narcissist, that can be more difficult than you think. Narcissists are very adept at grabbing your attention, and they will continue to do so even after you’ve broken off the relationship. It’s not uncommon for the narcissist to call you in the middle of the night intoxicated and angry. They might even break into your house with the excuse they are coming to get their belongings.
It’s also not uncommon for a narcissist to send you hundreds of texts or emails a day, pleading for you to tell them why you want to end the relationship. If you are tied to them by children or through other family members, this can go on for a long time. This can create an incredible amount of stress for you, and can even get to the point where you’ll need a restraining order to keep the narcissist off your back.
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