And the love-bombing ends when the Narcissist has achieved their goal, whether it was, exclusivity, marriage, children, access to your finances, or whatever else they are after. As soon as the Narcissist gets that green light that they have got you hook, line, and sinker, then it’s time to wind down on the love-bombing. It is time to relax the efforts until that phase becomes nothing more than a distant memory.
But the love-bombing will continue as long as you do not give in to the Narcissist. Because Narcissists enjoy the challenge of getting someone to fall in love with them. But when you do, it affects the Narcissist in ways that no one would expect. The Narcissist becomes bored, the Narcissist now has what they want, so you are no longer worth impressing or made to feel valued.
The changes come fast and hard. So, one of the first things the Narcissist will start to do is giving you the silent treatment. Expect them to become moodier and quieter around you, until it gets to the point where you are walking on eggshells around them. As they seem to be easily irritated and annoyed.
The next thing to look out for is the critiques. The Narcissist will become very critical because although once upon a time everything about you was perfect, now the Narcissist has what they want you are no longer perfect to them anymore. You are no longer worth being kept on a pedestal. You have been thrown off that pedestal and be led to feel worthless.
A major thing to note about the love-bombing phase is that it is all about you, but as soon as the love-bombing phase ends, it is no longer about what you want, but everything to do with what the Narcissist wants. This is the imbalance I mentioned earlier because, during the love-bombing phase, the Narcissist is obsessed with you and is willing to put you first for almost anything. It’s all about what you want to do, where you want to go, which is clearly not the correct mindset of someone who is balanced but rather someone who is trying to trap you.
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