3. Don’t show interest in their interests.
Another way that you can put them in their place is not to show an interest in their interest. When they try to engage with you in friendly banter, maybe they’re not quite in that argumentative mode and they’re talking about joyous kind of things or things that they think are neat and cool. It’s like, ‘Well, I know that’s where you are. Good for you.’ And you don’t have to say it out loud, but you just don’t engage. It’s what we refer to as the gray rock mentality. There’s nothing more boring than a gray rock. Just give them boring responses and let it be known, ‘I’m not going to go into that space with you.’ Because even when they’re friendly, it’s an invitation to pull you into their game plans. Like, ‘No, I don’t do that.’
4. Refuse to go along with their public persona.
If there are other individuals around that they’re trying to impress, they may say nice things about themselves. They may even say nice things about their relationship with you. It’s like, ‘No, I’m not going to go along with that one either. You can brag all you want. You can try to give the impression to other people that you’re connected, but I know differently. And over time, I’m hoping that truth would have a way of rising to the surface. And those other individuals out there that you’re trying to give this false impression to may or may not pick up on that. But I pick up on that, and I’m not going to go along with you and be your apologist by saying, ‘Oh yeah, you really are a nice person,’ when in fact, you’re not.
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