I’ll tell you where that leaves you. That leaves you in a no-win situation.
First of all, because this man has been groomed at such a young age to be his mother’s everything. The chances that they will ever leave their enmeshed relationship with their mother for a healthy relationship with you, is slim to none. It’s just not going to happen. This is ingrained into this man’s psyche in ways that he probably will never understand.
On top of that, typically, this son will have deeply repressed and subconscious feelings of hatred and disdain for his mother that he has never been able to even acknowledge or admit. That isn’t permitted in these families. So what ends up happening is the other woman in his life will be at the receiving end of this hatred and resentment.
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And if you are the partner or love interest of this man, that means you not to mention the man’s mother will be deeply envious and jealous of you. And no one will be more attuned to her feelings than her son. So if you are going to be the wife or the partner of this person, you likely will be indefinitely compared to his perfect mother, of course, never measuring up. You will be at the receiving end of his repressed hatred and resentment that he feels for his mother but has never been able to consciously acknowledge.
The conclusion…
For all intents and purposes, this mother and her son will be living as husband and wife. And the reality is until his mother dies, there isn’t any real chance this is ever going to get any better. And unfortunately, many times, even after the mother passes away, nothing changes. He will continue to be consumed with his mother’s wishes and desires for his life, even after death.
So if you have found yourself in this situation, you need to have a very serious conversation with yourself. Are you willing to share your husband or partner with his mother indefinitely? Are you willing to play second fiddle to her? And are you willing to always come in last? If the answer is no, then you probably want to end this relationship.
I personally have never seen a narcissistic mother and her enmeshed son’s life ever become a healthy relationship with boundaries.
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