1. Empathy.
Your ability and desire to love and care for others are essential. And Narcissists believe that people with empathy are easier to manipulate and control. In addition, because Narcissists lack empathy, they are instinctively drawn to people who have empathy, but at the same time, they hate the fact that you are a genuine, loving, caring, empathetic individual because that means you are truly able to enjoy life and find happiness.
And this is everything that the Narcissist cannot be or have. So, they grow to hate you for that. Because in their minds, they are thinking: How dare you be and have something that they can’t? The Narcissist would prefer if you were faking it like they do. They would prefer that you were miserable like they are. Therefore, the only thing left for the Narcissist to do is make your life a miserable hell; to wipe the light from your life and the smile from your face.
But empathy, although they despise us for it, is usually the number one thing that draws a Narcissist to a target.
2. Respect.
The second criterion the Narcissist uses to choose their targets is your respect for them. If the Narcissist realizes that you think highly of them and have bought into their fake image; not only are you a prime target but an easy one at that. Because the Narcissist knows they have your trust so now they need to take it to the next stage or look at the next criteria which are; your assets.
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