7. They will rewrite history.
There’s a little overlap here with this one, and one that we covered before, that had a lot to do with gaslighting. But this one, we’re going to talk about in a slightly different context. Gaslighting is an all-out attack on your perception of reality and truth, and rewriting history plays a major role in it. However, I know there are many of you out there, including myself, who have dealt with a narcissist who is rewriting history. You know that they are fully aware of what they’re doing, and you hold onto the truth without letting go. So even though they may try to gaslight you, their attempts are completely ineffective.
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The problem arises when they start rewriting history to anyone who will listen. They may take a tiny nugget of truth, blow it out of proportion, and fabricate most of the story around it. They might acknowledge that a certain event occurred, but they will deny the series of events that actually took place. The issue here is that if people know a part of the story is true, they are more likely to believe the rest of the fabricated story. This often happens when narcissists feel like they’re losing control over you and the narrative. They take the real situation, keep the neutral parts intact, add negative elements about you, and subtract anything that portrays them negatively. In the end, the story becomes completely different from what actually happened, but it contains those tiny grains of truth.
What’s truly astonishing is that they tell this fabricated version of events with such conviction that you can sense they are starting to believe it themselves. Even if you know there’s no way they could genuinely believe it, you can see that they are deluding themselves. It’s a bit unsettling because when they go out and share this story with others, you can imagine how persuasive they will be. Unfortunately, this overlaps with the smear campaign. The best thing you can do is maintain your integrity and hold onto your truth. We can hope that the people who truly matter to you will support you and that the truth will eventually come to light.
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