6. The flying monkeys.
The narcissist may send the flying monkeys to coerce, to badger, to guilt, or to shame you into abandoning these new boundaries. We all know narcissists always have a flock of flying monkeys, and they have no issues sending them out to add some added pressure to get you in line with their wishes and desires.
So if you’re trying to implement boundaries with a narcissist, be prepared for oncoming flying monkeys. They’re going to try and influence you to neglect and/or abandon your boundaries.
7. Ignore them.
This is a favorite of the narcissists to use when you try and establish boundaries with a narcissist, and that is to just ignore them completely. Many times, they will listen to your boundaries, hearing them loud and clear, and then just carry on as if you never had that conversation.
You explain things to them, and they seem to understand, but then, the next day, they are doing the very thing that you told them not to, and they pretend like the conversation never happened. It is beyond frustrating and really so disrespectful.
8. Refuse them.
They may just refuse them or demand that you will not be doing this. Narcissists believe they are entitled to behave any way they choose, on top of believing they are the one and the only person who has the authority to tell people what they can and cannot do.
So the narcissist might just tell you no, that’s not happening, and you’re going to do exactly as they say, and that’s that. If this happens, you have got to stay strong and stick to your guns. Don’t let them bully you into submission.
9. Trying to punish you.
The narcissists may try to punish you for even daring to suggest that they have rules they must adhere to with a nasty smear campaign. They might tell other people that you’re being cruel or that you’re selfish and ungrateful.
The narcissist’s priority is to keep full control and win, nothing is more important to a narcissist than winning. And when all else fails, they have no problems smearing you to other people behind your back as punishment.
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