5. Speak in the “I” language.
Now, with all of that said, if you have to engage with the narcissist, you have no other alternative, then I recommend that you speak in the “I” and the “we” language. Avoid using the word “you” at all costs. This helps to avoid the narcissist feeling the need to defend themselves. As such, you’re far less likely to inflict narcissistic injury and then incite narcissistic rage. Now, a really good way to do this is by using the “wind” technique, which I unpack in this article here.
Recommended: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
6. Stay working on an exit strategy.
Here’s the thing, like I said at the top of the article, narcissists don’t change. They do not change. So, no matter what you have to do or how long it’s going to take you, start where you are and start today. Start working on an exit strategy. Start socking away money. Start making a plan for yourself quietly, secretly. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself, sharing yourself and the truth of your experience and how you feel.
In other words, the effect the narcissist’s choices, attitudes, and behavior are having on you is only setting yourself up to be further harmed, hurt more than you’ve already been hurt. Narcissists take that stuff and use it as ammunition against you, so don’t go there. Instead, pour all of your time, energy, attention, and resources toward taking care of yourself and navigating your way toward a much happier, healthier, peaceful, and abundant life. You deserve at least that and so much more.
Read More: 7 Ways To Get A Narcissist To Respect You.
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