5. I can’t control what you think about me.
Narcissists usually date or marry empaths with low self-esteem, as it is easier for them to establish their dominance through gaslighting, a manipulation technique that plants seeds of self-doubt and unworthiness in the victim. And since empaths tend to be full of self-doubt and very self-conscious, they mostly rely on what their partner thinks of them to define their own worth, giving the narcissist enormous power over them.
Stating that your other half is free to think whatever they want, not only frees the narcissist from feeling like they have to defend their thoughts, but mostly it frees you from your partner’s psychological grip on your psyche. After that, it will be time for you to cultivate your own worth, while at the same time accepting how the narcissist feels about you.
6. I hear you.
In arguments, narcissists usually react badly to someone arguing back. The more their partner tries to talk some sense into them, the more they try to dominate the conversation, using their aggressive and manipulative techniques.
Usually, that happens because it is hard for narcissists to admit that they might be wrong. It is therefore very important to smooth out the argument, by letting them know that you actively hear what they have to say and that you understand where they’re coming from. That way, the tension in their mind will diffuse, and they might open their heart to your vision of the conversation, or at least their ears.
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