Number 4: Their fear of being embarrassed makes them concerned about how they appear in public.
Narcissists may not appear to be embarrassed by anything, but the truth is, they are extremely ashamed of who they are. This shame is something they constantly avoid, and if anything triggers it, it will get the narcissist’s rage. Therefore, always consider this in your interactions with them, a simple statement, or a slight comment would summon a monster from the narcissist and you’d be left wondering, what the heck happened? That’s the kind of embarrassment that shows how insecure they really are.
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However, they’re trapped in a loop of running away from the humiliation and awarding the shame, and one of the ways they do this is by maintaining a façade. A facade of being outstanding, great, wonderful, kind, caring, high class, whatever it takes for them to be seen as acceptable worthy of recognition, and Superior to everyone else. In the process of maintaining this façade, they use a lot of energy, only to ensure that people do not see their true colors. And the sad part of this story is that they sacrifice their loved ones in the process of doing so.
For example, narcissistic parents who are concerned with their Public Image will use their children and spouse as trophies to exhibit them in public and gain approval or praise via them, without even caring about how being used as a trophy impacts their children or marriage. This is why it is claimed that narcissists exploit you as objects, and this objectification becomes extremely evident when they strive to maintain the illusion and avoid the humiliation that they profoundly feel.
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