Number 2: They cannot cooperate.
When you live or work with a narcissist, it’s really difficult to operate as a team. That is because a narcissist lacks the energy necessary to sacrifice their own comfort in order to assist you. They will solicit your participation but will decline to help you if you need it. Narcissists seek cooperation in partners because they are aware of their own fundamental lack of this trait, and excessively cooperative partners will perform the work of two people to keep the relationship going, projecting their own desirable characteristics onto the narcissist and thus filling in the gaps to make the relationship appear more normal.
This high level of collaboration is the most crucial feature that narcissists want in relationships, since they intuitively recognize that such partners will stay in the relationship far beyond normal boundaries. Narcissists begin by testing their spouse’s willingness to cooperate with small boundary violations and eventually develop the capacity to perpetrate more significant relationship abuses while persuading their cooperating partner of the prospect that they can change.
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Number 1: They are emotionally draining.
Due to their lack of empathy and constant need for self-protection, narcissists are unable to connect with other people. They get emotionally exhausted as a result of their inability to perceive the world through the eyes of another. Regardless of whether a narcissistic sibling, boyfriend, or parent displays good attributes, the essence of narcissistic relationships delves deeply into your core by breaking your boundaries and manipulating you to the point of fatigue.
When you’re in close proximity to narcissists throughout your life, you will become emotionally drained to the point where you have nothing left to give. Indeed, you will be unable to contribute anything to your own needs. The narcissist, on the other hand, doesn’t care about that. Their whole emphasis is getting what they can from others. It is an insatiable thirst. The principles that the narcissist lives by are deception, secrecy, manipulation, and gaslighting.
If you are not someone who thrives on constant drama, being entangled in the narcissist’s web will leave you feeling trapped and deflated. All you can do at times is sit and wait for the spider to attack. Not all of these qualities have to be present in a single person to determine if they are a narcissist. However, if a person exhibits the bulk of these characteristics, it is not unreasonable to presume they are narcissistic.
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