3. The Narcissist Needs You.
For you to be even remotely close to perfect for a narcissist, you would have to be available 24/ 7, and you’re not, nobody can be. Because we do these pesky things like sleep, work, and have a life, family, maybe kids in a lot of cases, friends, hobbies, you know, all that kind of stuff that everybody else does.
The group of people that narcissists surround themselves with their harem will always be filled with people so that somebody can always be counted upon, somebody will always be there, and this is why there will always be more than one person. They have people in their harem who pay for things, some that are used for sex, those who they hit up when they’re bored, the people they lead on just for kicks. The exes, a good old hoover every now and then will mix some up when they need something to do. Maybe they have low self-esteem and they just need to take it out on somebody else. Exes are always going to be good for that.
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As they get bored of people and some people leave of their own free will, the narcissist begins to create a revolving door of people. Somebody might always be leaving, but somebody new is always coming in. None of this has anything to do with you, somebody easily bored, frankly is quite simple-minded, and that’s not your issue. Someone who doesn’t love you for you, that’s their problem, not yours.
Somebody who doesn’t think that you are enough curious thing that them not feeling as if we are enough that we’re good enough. You know, perhaps if they handled things in their life differently, got healthy, and took care of themselves. Maybe we would be seen as enough. Maybe their own shortcomings are why they need more than one person. And that’s exactly what it is.
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We’re plenty for a well-adjusted person, but sometimes people just have to try to convince themselves that somebody else isn’t good enough, so they don’t have to take a look at their own shortcomings. No, you will never be enough for somebody who is narcissistic. You never were, you never will be. And neither was I, so don’t take it personally, this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Things would end or fall apart no matter what you do or don’t do because again, nothing to do with you,
I hear it all the time, well if I would have done this differently, we’d still be together. If this wouldn’t have happened, maybe we’d still be in a relationship, something would always come around and just ruin it and destroy it. And it would have something to do directly with the narcissist. We all tried our best, we all gave everything we had. And if somebody didn’t appreciate it, then we are better off anyway without all of that.
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