Number 2: You may see a lot of feigned regret and remorse.
The narcissist who never said sorry before is now pretending to apologize. But it’s not real. They might say something like, “I’m sorry for everything I did. I hope you’ll trust me again, forgive me someday, and we can have a relationship.”
If you ask this type of narcissist what they’re apologizing for, they won’t have an answer because they’re just saying what they think you want to hear. They don’t really understand or believe they’ve done anything wrong. Their apology isn’t real or heartfelt. It’s fake and comes from their need to regain control over you. They just want you back in their life to use you as their main source of attention and support.
I’m sharing this from personal experience. When my mother realized she no longer had control over me, it hit her hard. I used to be completely wrapped up in her life—I was her protector, her savior. My whole focus back then was making sure she was okay and keeping her alive. I was constantly anxious about her, and that’s the kind of attention she got from me. I used to call her ten times a day, but then I stopped calling for weeks. That change was a huge shock for her.
What happened here? How did she react? She started with fake apologies and lots of crying, acting like the victim. She might say things to guilt-trip you, like: “One day, you’ll regret this, but by then, I’ll be gone. I’ll be in my grave. You’ll never have another mother or father like me. You had a gift, but you didn’t see it. Please forgive me. I did the best I could.”
Just to make you feel bad for distancing yourself from them and give you no space whatsoever to think. First, they will become a victim, and if they feel there is some space they can exploit, instantly they will start love-bombing you again. They will first create an inch and then turn it into a foot. They take all the space, all the oxygen; it’s in their nature.
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