4. Giving you the silent treatment.
The fourth thing they will do is be moodier and give you more silent treatments because as far as the narcissist is concerned, they are done with you; you have nothing more. You have nothing more to give them so they do not want to waste any more time on you. The only thing you are entitled to is their negativity, their hate, and their silence.
Narcissists make those final weeks or days as tumultuous as they can. Their hope is to leave the relationship with you taking on the majority or all the blame for the relationship falling apart. They also want you to feel depressed and broken, thinking you are the one who made them have to leave. They want you to feel that you are not lovable and that you do not deserve them.
When the narcissist does all these things, it only benefits them because if they ever wanted to come back, all that crazy-making was to ensure that the person will be feeling somewhat vindicated or worthy of their love again and take them back in a heartbeat. It is all a game to the narcissists and they play us every chance they get so that we can respond to them in the ways they prefer.
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Narcissists are beyond selfish. When they are ready to move on, they do not care if they leave you shattered in a thousand pieces or wrecking your brains trying to find out where it all went wrong. The truth is that is exactly what they want; they want you broken, confused, and distraught, but above all, pine in for them. That is the narcissist’s ultimate twisted desire, which is to basically still be desired and wanted even after they know they have done all they can to destroy you.
For many people, the narcissist’s discard can come as a surprise and it can be traumatic to those on the receiving end. But the narcissists leaving can be seen as a blessing in disguise because once you realize what you were dealing with, you are much better off without them. You just have to ensure to resist any future hoovers and focus on rebuilding your mental and emotional health.
Read More: 10 Signs A Narcissist Is Playing With You.
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