5. Hating you.
And lastly, if you leave a narcissist and they cannot manipulate and coerce you back into the relationship and their tactics to win you back or scare you into coming back do not work, then their feelings about you can very well turn into a deep hatred for you, almost an obsessive hatred for you. They can become fixated on trying to even the score, even though all you did was not want to have a life with them and be subjected to their abuse for the rest of your life.
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They genuinely see this as a betrayal and a decision that you are not allowed to make. They believe that they are the ones that tell you when it’s over. You took it upon yourself to put yourself into a position where you are as powerful as the narcissist, and that is not allowed. And, unfortunately, in some cases like in my case, this can become a decades-long obsession they develop for you. They want to see you fail and ruin.
In my case, it became crystal clear that my ex and my father, and others wanted to see my permanent address become a cemetery, a prison, or a mental ward. After years and years of unrelenting harassment, terrorism, vandalism, and stalking for decades; they do not want you to move on. They have developed an obsession and a hatred for you that seems to control them.
This is one of the reasons that you will hear me say if you are trying to end a relationship with a high-spectrum malignant narcissist or sociopath, try to get them to discard you first. Try to make them believe they are the winner. Try and make them feel as though the breakup is best for them because nothing on this earth is more important to these people than winning. So try to come up with creative ways that you could possibly get them to discard you, or at the very least, to believe this breakup makes them the winner. You want to try and avoid as much post-breakup harassment as humanly possible.
Read More: How Narcissistic Husbands Treat Their Wives.
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