Number 5: Recruit flying monkeys.
They might try to get to you through your friends and through your family. They may contact them as if they are concerned about you. Or they might try to destroy that network by ingratiating themselves into their company. So this could be maybe making it difficult for you to hang around with those people if they’re there. Or they could be spreading rumors and gossip to try to destroy your character, and your reputation. Doing and saying things that could make it difficult for those people to associate with you.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
There is some truth in the saying, Whenever they can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. And this can be very intrusive. You might feel unsafe, and intimidated, and if you were to confront them, challenge them, assert yourself with them, somehow, it’s still a win for them because you’ve engaged with them. Bad attention is better than none at all.
Number 6: Emotional blackmail.
Now this involves a lot of guilt-tripping and a lot of shaming. ‘How can you, after all I’ve done for you?’ ‘Are you prepared to throw X number of years away?’ ‘What will the children think?’ ‘What about the cat?’ They may play on their illnesses, their issues, and their traumas. ‘How could you leave them in such a state? Does that prove how uncaring and selfish you are?’ Or they may threaten to harm themselves hoping that you will intervene.
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