First and foremost, be aware that they do these things. When you are trying to get a narcissist to understand something, you only need to tell them once. You don’t need to elaborate, explain, convince, persuade. You simply need to tell them one time. They understand what you’re telling them no matter how they try and bait you into going around and around with them in circles. Don’t take the bait.
When they try and bait you into these circular, ridiculous, illogical, never-ending, never resolving conversations, don’t indulge them. The problem is that we as empaths want to know the truth and we think using our emotions primarily, using our emotional mind instead of our logical mind, and no one knows this more than the narcissist. If they say something terrible about us, then we feel this overwhelming need to defend ourselves. And all that does is engage the narcissists more and more, feeding them more and more narcissistic supply.
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If they mischaracterize us, understand this is just a projection. We do not need to defend ourselves to anyone. It is not our job to get the narcissist to understand anything. My best advice to you is, don’t take the bait, don’t indulge in this type of behavior, and don’t defend yourself and get caught up in everyone understanding the truth. Remember the old saying: “Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”.”
State your case one time. If you must, walk the hell away. Do not waste your time and energy on these manipulations. This will eventually start to starve them of the narcissistic supply they are trying to gain from you by utilizing ward salad, and hopefully, they will soon quit coming to you to obtain supply, which should always be the goal with a narcissist. You do not want them to view you as a good source of narcissistic supply ever. You want them to leave you alone.
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