With the earlier example I gave, their response will be: “Ok, I can’t contact you after 8 pm, then I am not contacting you at all, if you want me, you know how to reach me.” This is the Narcissist’s last-ditch attempt to get you to get rid of that boundary. What they are hoping is that you get rid of the boundary and apologize for upsetting them. Narcissists are not willing to take accountability. They are not willing to accept that they were the ones who were wrong in trying to push your boundaries. They are happier to view you as being the unreasonable one who is unfair, selfish and whatever else have you.
Narcissists hate boundaries, especially those surrounding your time as they want you to give them all your time. They want you to use your time doing what they want you to do. They want to steal your time and waste your time, which is something I talked more about in this article. We need to safeguard this valuable asset called time and not allow anyone, especially a Narcissist, to monopolize it.
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But to conclude, setting a time boundary is a very good way to confirm if you are dealing with a Narcissist or not. How they respond to your boundary will be clear if they are wanting to control you, if they respect you, and whether they are willing to take accountability. Just ensure you do not accept any of their lame excuses as to why they chose not to respect or honour your boundary. Because if you allow a Narcissist to get away with pushing or breaking your boundaries, they will keep doing it. And in the end, they will be the ones in control of you. And if you want to know more about what you can expect when setting boundaries with a narcissist, check out this article here.
Ok, that is it for today. As always, I hope this was useful. Please share your thoughts and experiences and don’t forget to share whenever you can. Many thanks for reading.
Read More: 8 Ways to Make a Narcissist Respect You.
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