5. When they criticize you, give neutral responses.
For example, if they say, ‘I don’t like the way you handled this,’ or ‘That was stupid,’ or ‘I don’t know why you would do the things that you do,’ let it be known, ‘I can tell that that was important to you.’ Or you might say something like, ‘We do think differently, don’t we?’ or ‘I knew that you were bothered by something. Now I understand.’ And just go into that space and just be bland, be neutral.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
6. Don’t negotiate your needs with them.
As they continue to spew their negativity on you, don’t negotiate your needs with them. Don’t go into this pleading kind of mentality and insistence like, ‘I’ve got to get you to understand.’ No, you really don’t. In fact, when you have these kinds of differences with the narcissist and it’s a repetitive pattern, there are three no’s that I pick up on: no pleading, no coaxing, and no convincing. The bottom line is, I don’t need their approval. I don’t need them to understand me so that I can move forward with my healthy initiatives.
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