3. “I can completely and totally accept how you feel“.
Another one of my very favorite phrases to disarm a narcissist is to say, “I can completely and totally accept how you feel”, and just leave it at that again.
This is not only driving the narcissist crazy because you are depriving them of the narcissistic supply they are trying to extract from you by baiting you into an argument and provoking you to have a nasty reaction that they can obviously use against you later on, but it also shows them that you just don’t care what they think. And that their perceptions, their conclusions, and thoughts about you or this situation have no effect on you, and you can accept that’s how they feel and you are not interested in trying to change their opinion. This will stop the narcissist dead in their tracks, trust me on this one.
4. “It’s unfortunate for you that you feel that way“.
Next, an effective phrase that victims can use with a narcissist to throw them off their game is to simply say, “it’s unfortunate for you that you feel that way”. This puts the responsibility right back onto them. It relieves you of any responsibility or concern, and basically just says too bad for you that you have these ridiculous and damaging feelings that essentially only affect and harm you. Basically, “you’re saying, it’s unfortunate for you that you feel that way, not for me, not in any way for me”.
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