5. Sabotaging her kids.
She is also incredibly good at sabotaging her kids or stepkids, usually because she’s jealous. For example, let’s say you want an award at school and deep down she’s jealous, then all of a sudden, you did something wrong and she refuses to allow you to take the car to the award ceremony. She does things in such a way that you cannot directly link her behavior to the crime, so to speak. It’s very difficult for people to see or believe the connection between the cause and the effect of what she does.
Many times, her kids don’t fully understand until they’re adults, and even then, it’s usually really hard to comprehend that your own mother has been intentionally sabotaging you your entire life. And, of course, to the outside world, she portrays herself as the most loving and gracious mother in the world.
The movie “Mommy Dearest” is such an amazing movie and gives such incredible insight into what it’s like to be raised by a narcissistic mother. If you haven’t seen that movie, I highly recommend you watch it.
6. No boundaries.
Narcissistic mothers do not know the definition of boundaries, especially with their own kids, and if you do try to establish boundaries, she will violate them without a second thought. Boundaries mean absolutely nothing to this woman. Your belongings are her belongings. She might take or even sell or give away your things without your knowledge or consent. She’s really good at committing your time to something without even asking you about it. These mothers love to speak for their kids; their opinions are the only opinions. It’s usually her way or the highway, so to speak.
Recommended: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
These mothers don’t give their kids any privacy. They go through their things, they’ll go through their snoop around, ask invasive or inappropriate questions, go through their emails or their cell phone or their purse, etc. She will consistently do things against your expressed wishes. Many times, when you try and establish a boundary with these women, they’ll just ignore them as if you never had the conversation.
I have known some that keep tabs on their kid’s bodily functions, literally. Some of these kids cannot even get a break from her when they go to the bathroom. They monitor everything. They are also famous for divulging, and humiliating information about you to others. And if you share something with her about something that you did wrong or a mistake that you made, she will throw that in your face at a later date. All of these things she does without any embarrassment or giving it a second thought.
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