6. They’ll try to isolate you from your support system.
So here you are, gaining strength and confidence, and the narcissist is starting to feel the heat. They know that a big part of your power comes from the people who have your back—your support system. So what does the narcissist do? They start trying to cut you off from them. They might tell you that your best friend is a bad influence or say that your family doesn’t truly understand you like they do, right? According to the narcissist, they are the only one who understands you. They might even try to create conflicts between you and the people you care about. They twist your words, make up stories, or even outright lie to drive a wedge between you and your loved ones. Why do they do this?
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Because they know that the more isolated you are, the more dependent you’ll become on them. It’s a terrible thing to do to somebody, but unfortunately, it can be very effective. When you’re cut off from your support system, it’s easy to start doubting yourself and feel like the narcissist is the only one who truly understands you. However, your support system is one of your greatest strengths. Please remember that.
When you sense someone trying to pull you away from your loved ones, it’s a good time to lean in closer. Reach out to your friends and family, even if it’s been a while or feels challenging. If you feel safe to do so, share what’s happening and ask for their support and understanding. It means a lot. Most importantly, trust your instincts. If the narcissist is telling you that everyone in your life is wrong or out to get you, that’s a major warning sign. Your people are your people for a reason. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.
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