3. They’ll switch up their tactics.
Remember when you first met the narcissist? Yeah, I’m talking about all that love-bombing stuff. They couldn’t get enough of how confident, successful, and independent you were until they realized that they couldn’t control you. Suddenly, your strength becomes a problem for them because you’re not falling for their manipulation anymore. So they switch up their tactics. The narcissist might start becoming more hostile, picking fights over the smallest things, or giving you the silent treatment for days on end. What they’re trying to do is throw you off balance, to make you question yourself and your actions. Or they might go the opposite route and become aloof, acting like they couldn’t care less about you or your life. They’ll stop showing interest in your hobbies, your friends, your dreams, just you in general. And they’re hoping that by withdrawing their affection, you’ll start chasing after them again.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
See, this is where the confusion about no contact comes into play because there are tons of articles and videos from relationship coaches who actually advise going no contact to get the other person to come chase you. And basically, that’s what the narcissist is trying to do when they start withdrawing from you. They want you to chase them harder. But the truth is, none of this has anything to do with you personally. The narcissist is kind of like a chameleon, and they change their colors to blend in with whatever suits them in the moment.
But here, if you’re in this place where you’ve gotten stronger, and the narcissist is just starting to see it, the cards are in your hands. If you’re reading this article, you have already seen through their tricks and their bluffs. So keep playing that hand with confidence, knowing that you have the power to control how you react to the narcissist’s behavior. You cannot control their behavior, but you can control how you react to it. So choose to prioritize your own well-being and refuse to engage with their nonsense.
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