5. Ignore.
When all else fails, this can be very powerful. Many years ago, I came across a quote. I’ve no idea where even, or who it originates from. It just always stuck with me. I love it. It goes as such, “Until you can ignore ignorance, neglect, negativity, “and disregard disrespect, “you are not ready for the next level. “Success is not for the weak.” I love that quote.
And the truth is, if your definition or at least part of your definition of success is no longer being battered around by the destructive narcissist in your life, then it’s high time that you practice ignoring ignorance, neglecting negativity, and disregarding disrespect. There is a lot of power in choosing that mindset and acting accordingly.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
6. Don’t take anything personally.
And I know, this is way easier said than done because a lot of this stuff feels real fricking personal, especially when the person we’re talking about is a parent, a sibling, or a spouse. It feels really personal, but believe it or not, it’s not personal. It’s not your stuff. How they think, how they feel, how they behave is not yours to own. What’s going on with them is not your fault and it’s not your responsibility. You didn’t cause it and you can’t fix it, okay? So it’s not personal. Believe it or not.
Except, what’s being triggered inside of you, that is personal. So, how they think, how they show up, how they behave, that is not your stuff. What is your stuff, What you do need to take personally is what’s going on inside of you, especially the stuff that is so easily and deeply triggered.
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