I would like to talk to you, the targeted person, about some strategies that you can use in order to hopefully prevent some of the collateral damage that they are hoping to cause by means of provoking you.
They are going to pull every single underhanded trick they can think of, so you must implement the gray rock method. And remember at all times, if you engage outside of the courthouse or inside, you must only respond, do not react, that might sound rather elementary or even possibly as an easy thing to do.
However, when you are facing court against a malignant narcissist, you are in survival mode. Going to court against the narcissist is just about the most trauma and stress-producing events a person could ever live through. The court can have devastating effects on our mental health, especially when you have children and you’re trying to protect them.
So you need to take care of yourself. Do your best to keep the nervous system calm and always. If you can keep from it, do not speak or interact with the narcissist or flying monkeys, even if they are trying to interact with you, just ignore them completely if possible.
But if it isn’t possible, remember, respond, do not react. They are betting on the fact that they will be able to provoke and produce a chaotic and dramatic reaction out of you. Do not give it to them. The more you are able to keep a hold of your emotions, the more they are unable to produce the reaction in you that they are hoping for. The more they will start to spiral, the more their true colors will start coming out. And remember, respond, do not react at all times.
In closing…
If you are headed to a court or in court with a malignant narcissist, my heart goes out to you. I encourage you to get as much support as humanly possible during the court proceedings, whether it’s from an educated therapist, or a narcissistic abuse recovery coach, or a support group with other members who have lived through the horror of going to court with the narcissist. No one could possibly understand what you were going through unless they have lived through it themselves.
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