10. Fear, obligation, and guilt
Sometimes we call coming out of narcissistic abuse, coming out of the fog, which stands for fear, obligation, and guilt. Those three are standard manipulation and control tactics that all narcissists use on people.
When you establish boundaries with a narcissist, you can count on being met with abuse and manipulation tactics that are an attempt to scare you and shame you, because they want you to feel obligated to them, not to yourself, and tons of guilt trips. Those you can count on encountering when you try to establish boundaries with a narcissist.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
In closing…
Boundaries are a necessity for empaths because they not only serve to keep ill-intended people out, but also keep us in. People-pleasers typically have extremely weak boundaries or just don’t have them at all.
And when we don’t know exactly what our boundaries are, in the five areas of life, which are, emotional, mental, physical, time and energy, and material, we are also unaware that we may very well be giving too much, putting too much time and effort into something that isn’t our problem or issue.
So boundaries for people like us serve to keep toxic people at a safe distance but to also keep us in and keep our elevated, empathetic, and compassionate personality and character traits wrangled in and under control.
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