7. You’re free to speak your mind.
We are aware that standing up to a narcissist can be very hard and triggering, and listening to them devalue you or telling you that you are to blame for everything that is wrong can be overwhelming. But it is important for you to train yourself to see your own worth so that you are not affected by their gaslighting.
Stating clearly that they have the right to speak their mind is a powerful tool to diffuse a situation with a narcissist. They see that nothing is restricting their freedom, and you get to hear exactly what they think of you, without being affected. After all, how can someone argue against being able to speak freely?
8. I can’t control how you feel about me.
In general, a narcissistic person needs someone to blame constantly, otherwise, they are left with only themselves to blame. Instead, they would rather point the finger at their partner, making sure that they take the blame for everything wrong or dysfunctional in the relationship. They can even go further and blame their partner for how they feel about them.
And since empaths generally don’t like conflict, they prefer to take it out on themselves and swallow their pain. But that is no way to live. You should make your narcissistic partner understand that, firstly, they have the right to feel as they do, and secondly, you can’t control how they feel about you.
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