Number 6: Negotiate well.
When it comes to the things you should never say to a narcissist, consider up-leveling your negotiation skills and abilities. This is a relationship dynamic where it’s always going to be in your best interest to never reveal what you want and even what you don’t want for that matter. Given the opportunity, a narcissist will use this information against you and make sure that you get the exact opposite of what you want, or make sure that you don’t get what you want for no other reason than sheer spite, and they’ll enjoy it. And this is especially true if you’re in the midst of any kind of a divorce or custody battle with a narcissist.
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Let them think you want something other than what you actually want and that you could care less about the thing that you do want. And if it’s at all possible, let them think the end result is their idea. In other words, let them think they’ve won, even when the reality is you’re the one winning. They don’t need to know that. Keep your ego out of it and let them have the last word if you want to actually walk away with the win. With narcissists, we’re literally operating in an inverted reality. So remember, counterintuitive is often going to be the way to go. Not easy, but totally doable with practice.
Number 7: “You’re a narcissist.”
Do not tell a narcissist that you think they’re a narcissist. There’s no point. I assure you, they are very well defended emotionally and psychologically on a subconscious level from ever being able to see themselves or anything they’ve done or not done as being the problem or issue. Nothing you say can or will put a dent in what’s going on with a true blue, dyed-in-the-wool narcissist. So save your breath.
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