5. You Will Often Get Warnings From Ex-partners About Their Narcissistic Tendencies.
This may seem like quite an obvious sign, but the narcissist is such a good liar. It can be easy to believe them when they claim these people are crazy liars and stalkers. Narcissists can anticipate this. They will often describe their exes with degrading terms from the onset of your relationship. They tell tales of how their previous partners were obsessed with them and couldn’t let go. Their manipulative nature convinces you of their credibility.
A Book: Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed– by Wendy Behary.
Don’t be quick to dismiss people who go out of their way to warn you about them or call them out in public, especially if they previously dated the narcissist. Not every past lover is out to destroy your relationship. Narcissists use the one time their exes didn’t do something or the one time they did something as evidence of their shortcomings making their story believable. No one is good enough for a narcissist.
6. You Catch Them Lying Multiple Times For No Good Reason.
Narcissists are chronic and pathological liars. This means that they create and maintain extravagant stories over time and they do this often and unnecessarily. This makes them near impossible to catch in the act. Sometimes, they lie to protect themselves from being caught. Other times, they lie to control your perception of them.
They can flat-out deny that they said or did something or resort to making the conversation unclear in a bid to blur your defense; It gives them a sense of superiority. It’s not normal to openly and unashamedly lie to someone. Why is it so effective? The more confused you feel upon hearing the lie, the more you start to remember the narcissist’s defense and not the actual truth. Now the excuse begins to make sense.
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