Number 8: They will gaslight you.
After spreading rumors and accusing you of ridiculous things, the narcissists will now gaslight you. “You don’t appreciate my efforts”, “I can’t believe you don’t remember how hard I worked for us”. “You’re too sensitive”, I didn’t treat you hideously, and I did my best”. The narcissist will know to downplay their wrongdoings, which sows doubt in your mind. They avoid accountability and disregard your feelings by gaslighting you to subtly twist the situation.
When deciphering the hidden essence of their communications, trust your gut intuition. These claims are designed to be foolish and they are well aware of this. They don’t want you to think about whether or not what they’re saying is true or to calm down and ignore what they’re saying. They want every part of you to react, so you better be ready for it.
Recommended: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
Number 9: They will threaten to hurt themselves.
Threats of self-harm are the most obvious signs that a narcissist is hoovering you. A narcissist may threaten to harm themselves as their last resort when attempting to entice them back into a relationship. This is such a manipulative tactic in which they will try to force you to respond by threatening to harm themselves if you don’t. In the worst-case scenario, some threaten to kill themselves if you do not return their calls and texts. Suppose you do think narcissists are in immediate danger. In that case, you can always call your local emergency services number and have them handle it.
It it’s important to remember that your inaction is not responsible for someone else’s self-harm or suicide. Narcissists are generally good manipulators and have a way of working you into their lives. They’re masterful at twisting the truth, making it so that you feel as if you owe them something. But remember, narcissists, do this to everyone the best way to gain some perspective is to step back and look at yourself from an outsider’s point of view. If you do, you should begin to see the red flags, including these hoovering techniques with the narcissist, and understand that they’re just using you.
Read More: 9 Things You Should Never Say To a Narcissist.
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