Number 3: They hate you because you’re not paying attention to them.
Narcissists want your attention, and they need it more than anything else. They feel empty and angry if they don’t get the admiration they crave. They don’t like it when they think you don’t care about their opinion and when they think you’re ignoring them. They also especially hate it if they think someone else is getting more attention than they are. Narcissists belittle your accomplishments, make fun of your appearance, or derail conversations so that the focus and attention are all about them again.
When you ignore them and don’t pay attention to them, it feels like a personal insult to their ego. They need constant validation from anyone and everyone around them, no matter how small or insignificant the interaction may be. If you don’t give it to them, they’ll get angry and lash out at you in whatever way they can.
Number 4: They hate you because you’re getting attention from people.
It’s not just the attention of one person either; they hate it when you get attention from anyone at all. Narcissists always want to be the center of attention and won’t stand for anyone else to get that honor. It makes them feel like they aren’t special enough, like their accomplishments aren’t enough to make them stand out in a crowd. They don’t want to share their Spotlight with anyone else, which is why they feel threatened when someone else gets more praise than them.
One way narcissists deal with this feeling of being threatened is by attacking the person getting all the attention or praise, instead of figuring out why that person has managed to get so much of it in the first place. They might even try to make them feel like there’s something wrong with them or make them feel bad about themselves.
Number 5: They hate you because you’re confident in yourself.
If you’re the type of person who’s secure and confident in your skin, then a narcissist will see that as an opportunity to take advantage. They feel entitled to everything, including all the attention and admiration from everyone around them. They want to be seen as special and unique, so they’ll do whatever it takes to get that attention. Unfortunately, this can often come at the expense of others’ feelings and self-esteem.
Since narcissists constantly seek approval from others and need validation for their self-worth, they feel their entire identity depends on others liking them. So when someone comes along who doesn’t need their approval or validation, they feel threatened by that person’s confidence. They will do anything to break down their confidence so they can feel better about themselves again.
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