Number 8: “I don’t like your friends. They’re not good enough for you.”
Translation: I want to completely isolate you and ensure you have no one to support you, no one to tell you that I am abusing you and that I am an abuser and you should leave me. I want to have all of your attention, your mind, and nobody else can have you. I want you to feel that I am everything that you will ever need in your life because that way I can abuse you in whatever way I want to, and you won’t leave. I want you to depend on me for everything so that I can hide my dependency through yours. I want you to make me the center of your life so that you wouldn’t leave me.
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Number 9: “I don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s all in your head. There’s something wrong with you.”
Translation: I know exactly what you’re talking about, but I am pretending not to understand to escape responsibility and reflection. I want you to feel crazy for making things up. I know there is nothing wrong with you, yet I am trying to make you crazy to have absolute power. I’m taking away your ability to reason and use logic so you can never question me again. I’m feining innocence to make you question your understanding of the situation, your recall of the event, and your feelings such as anger, sadness, or confusion. I know things happened the way you describe them, but to escape taking responsibility, I need to act as if I have never said that or it never happened the way you are describing it.
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