Number 7: Develop self-agency.
Now, self-agency is defined as the capacity for individuals to act independently and of their own free will, making their own choices and decisions without influence or control from others. In other words, know your mind, trust yourself, and act accordingly. And people with this kind of healthy self-esteem live in alignment with their personal integrity, have strong boundaries, and are, therefore, less vulnerable to emotional manipulators, toxic bullies, and other types of predators.And the added benefit here is, this is where the line in the sand is drawn and you stop enabling the narcissist and their destructive attitudes and behavior. They won’t like it, but over time, they will respect you for it. Although they’d rather die than admit it, deep down, they’ll respect you for not being an easy target and standing still while enabling their bullshit.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Number 8: self-sovereignty, maintaining your personal sovereignty.
In other words, you don’t need the narcissist for anything, but maybe they need you or you have something they covet, want, or need. The point is, never allow yourself to be indebted to a narcissist for anything, and be careful here because you can easily inflict narcissistic injury by accidentally triggering the narcissist’s sense of rejection or abandonment. After all, who do you think you are to reject or abandon the narcissist, right? Now, if you’re anything like me, you won’t be the least bit phased by this or the inevitable smear campaign that ensues, and getting to this place will take some practice and some serious healing for sure, but you can get there.
The point is, narcissists are hungry for power, and in your absence, the only power they have over you is manipulating perceptions and poisoning the minds and hearts of others towards you, even that of children sadly, such is the depth of their insecurity, envy, bitterness, and resentment. And they justify all of this through their delusional belief that it’s disrespectful of you to not hang around and allow them to continue to criticize, diminish, demean, gossip about, and outright smear you, and fundamentally disrespect you on every level. So again, maintain your personal sovereignty at all costs. You don’t need them for anything.
Read More: How to Shut Down a Narcissist Without Even Saying a Word.
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