5. “I’m the most honest person you’ll ever meet.”
Unfortunately, it kind of works unless you’ve encountered somebody like this before, and then you know that somebody who’s really honest doesn’t need to tell you how honest they are. But as people, we like to give other people the benefit of the doubt, and if somebody tells you they’re really honest, you want to believe them. It’s not until you get much deeper into the relationship that you realize how untrue this one really is. Even if the narcissist tries to avoid outright lies, they’re always going to have secrets.
Narcissists always need supply, and when you have a lot to hide, it’s difficult not to lie. You need to lie to keep those secrets, to keep those skeletons in the closet. Even when they aren’t outright lying to you, they might be omitting large chunks of information that would be really helpful for you to know.
Recommended: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
6. “I’m going to change.”
The sixth lie is, “I’m going to change or treat you better.” “I am going to be nicer. I am going to do the things that you want me to do around here.” And this is a lie that you’re only going to hear when the narcissist needs something from you. So if they need you as supply, let’s say they discarded you and they’re coming back on a Hoover because they need supply and you are the fastest route to get there, they’re going to promise you the world. They’re going to promise you that things are going to get better, that they’re going to maybe go to counseling or they’re going to be nicer to you, improve their behavior. But if you’ve been here, again, you know that this is infuriatingly false.
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