7. They leave a trail of drama.
Now, the covert narcissist specifically is highly likely to tell you that they hate drama. They can’t stand to be around dramatic people. But you notice that there is a trail of drama in their wake, that wherever they go, drama seems to follow. These are the people who have a trail of crazy exes who show up unannounced and do all the things. The reason why they do this is because the narcissist is toying with them, breadcrumbing them, stringing them along, lying. And if you latch on to somebody who’s doing that kind of stuff to you, that’s going to lead you to act in some pretty crazy ways. But here’s the key in this example that I just gave: the covert narcissist gets to sit back and say, ‘Well, look at me. I’m calm. I’m not doing anything,’ because everything they’re doing is behind the scenes.
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And this doesn’t just happen with crazy exes or cheating. It happens very often, in fact, more often with reactive abuse. This is one way that a covert narcissist will absolutely get to you. And this happens in the relationship and after the relationship. If you keep this person in your life for whatever reason, they will find your triggers. They will push your buttons, and they will do it so calmly and seemingly innocently. This is why the covert narcissist is so often referred to as a wolf in sheep’s clothing because the image that they’re presenting, while they’re triggering you, is a sheep. But it’s really the wolf behind the scenes pulling the strings. The wolf knows exactly what it’s doing, and it’s doing it on purpose. But all the world sees is the sheep. So then when you react and you blow up, you look like the wolf. You look like the bad guy.
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