Number 3: A narcissist becomes boring when you realize there is no authentic self to them.
They’re just a clone, a shape-shifter, a chameleon who absorbs and mirrors bits and pieces of those whom they have been with, other sources of supply, and so on. There is nothing real to them. There is monotony. There is linearity. There is no expansion. There’s only constriction and it’s boring and pathetic to be with or to be around. It’s totally black and white. There is no color in their life. They end up losing because when you recognize them as that, you naturally start distancing yourself from them and they lose power over you.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Their spell was all about making you think that they’re the most interesting person ever, but when the truth is revealed, they become the opposite. Rather, their truth comes to the surface and you see it for what it is. That is their loss. They think delusionally so that they’re always going to keep you in that 3D illusion, but when you take off those rose-tinted glasses, they become disgusting, the most horrible person to be around. That is how they lose. They fail and failure is not what is acceptable to a narcissist.
Number 4: They pretend to be full of life, happy-go-lucky, joyful.
Oh, they’re the life of the party. Underneath that facade, underneath that sweet, charming, kind personality, there is a zombie that lives, that feels nothing at all. The proof of which was given by a narcissist to me with whom I had an accidental session a couple of months ago. And I asked her in our last session, “Please be honest, what do you feel when you cry, when you smile, when you express or pretend to express emotions?” And with a very flat face, that person told me, “Nothing. I don’t feel anything at all. It’s just that I know that’s how I’m supposed to act. I act that way. I follow the script.”
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