5. They Fear Being Exposed.
A fifth thing that narcissists fear, and that is they fear being exposed. When you and I hang out with other individuals, whether it’s in business or work or family and friendships, eventually what’s going to happen is our flaws are going to show up, our mistakes are going to become known, and our humanity is going to be there. And as we get to know one another, healthy and secure people can say, ‘Yeah, I do have mistakes. I have things in my personal resume that didn’t play out the way I wanted. I’m flawed. I’m human. Okay, let’s talk about it, and let’s share our experiences so that we can learn how to be mutual encouragers.’ Narcissists are like, ‘Oh no, nobody exposes me. I don’t want you to talk about my mistakes.’
Now, if you catch them lying or if they are a bully, or if they have had some socially inappropriate behaviors, or if they’ve made miscalculations, what do they do? They flip it around on you. First of all, they talk about how you’re really the loser, but then they make themselves have to be the victim. ‘Hey, you know, if you do see any of my flaws and if you’re over there holding that against me, there’s something wrong with you. I can’t believe that you would talk this way towards me.’ And so, they rationalize and then they turn it around and make you out to be some sort of mean-spirited individual.
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6. They Fear Being Irrelevant.
A sixth thing that narcissists fear, they fear being irrelevant. Sometimes, the worst thing that can happen to them is to just be ignored or just being talked over. There can be times when a narcissist may be in a group of individuals and it becomes clear to them that ‘you people don’t care about me.’ And again, it’s like they interpret that as a referendum about who they, the narcissists, are. And it’s like, ‘I am extremely relevant, and you have to know that.’ And so, feeling irrelevant and feeling like they’re just being overlooked is something that bothers them and bothers them greatly.
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