Number 1: Texting Non-Stop and Demanding Constant Attention.
They text you whenever they want to text you. They don’t care about your boundaries. They don’t care about the time you are sleeping, if you are waking up or who you are with, or if you are in a meeting, none of that is important to them. What is important for a narcissist is to get your attention and have it on them at all times possible. Why?
A narcissist thinks that they own you out of that entitlement. You are theirs. So your attention has to be on them. You can’t focus on your things. You can’t focus on your job. You can’t focus on your basic life-functioning activities. It has to be on them at all times. If it is not, it is seen as a form of betrayal and disloyalty.
So you become hooked on your phone. You constantly are near your phone because now you are becoming anxious and hyper-vigilant around their texting behavior. You don’t know when you are going to get their message and when you will be required to respond to them. Also, quite early, it is very intense. It’s always back and forth, back and forth, day and night.
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You’re constantly on phone and you think that they are very into you. It’s quite intense. They are trying to know you, but it’s not. They need your attention. They demand this attention from you because they are exerting control over you. They are kind of getting you into the trap and when you are in the trap, they leave you in the middle of nowhere because now that they have lost interest in you, the devaluation starts and you are left in this bubble of chaos.
They got you addicted to this texting pattern first, and now they leave you and you have to deal with this: The altered nervous system, this anxiety, this stress, the urges that you have now on your own. They literally change your biochemistry through this texting behavior, through this constant demand for attention via texting.
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