Number 2: Deflect attempts of manipulation and gaslighting.
When they start messing up with your head, when they start messing up with your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, hold on to your truth and say something along the lines of “My opinions are mine and you are entitled to have yours. My reality is not how you are describing it.” And just say it and leave the room. That is what would also kill the narcissist’s ego because they want you to react to what they are saying. They want you to take it personally. They want you to believe what they want you to believe because once they make you believe, they get the sense of control which makes them feel special in a way, which makes them feel powerful because getting control over someone’s emotions, over someone’s psyche, gives them a high. Gives them a sense of self-importance that they lack otherwise.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
When a narcissist tries to gaslight or manipulate you, pay attention to how it makes you feel. Acknowledge those emotions and firmly say no. Create distance by directly expressing the difference between their beliefs and yours. Say it to their face. Let them know that what they believe is not the same as your truth. They have the right to believe what they want, but your truth is what matters to you the most, and you know your truth.
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