Number 1: They’re highly seductive, initially anyway.
People who land on the spectrum of destructive narcissism tend to use seduction as their primary means of connecting because they’re fundamentally incapable of bonding in a real and healthy way. So, instead of working to foster healthy love and intim@cy—things they know nothing about—it’ll be all about seducing you and the challenge of the conquest. And let’s be honest: a narcissist can be incredibly seductive, as well as charismatic and charming when motivated. They’ll use their seductive charm and charisma to manipulate you into satisfying their own s£xµal needs, desires, and fantasies.
In the early stages of a relationship, they’ll likely shower you with attention, gifts, and praise in order to reel you in, only for you to realize down the track that the narcissist only cares about themselves and their own needs, and, in reality, cares very little about you.
Number 2: They move too fast.
Narcissists often want to move really fast—too fast—and they get mad when you don’t or won’t. When you say no, “not now,” or “not yet,” it threatens their fragile, false persona and over-inflated ego. Your desire to go at a pace that’s healthy, safe, and comfortable for you will be perceived as a form of rejection. Although they may try to hide it, if you’re paying attention, you’ll see the emotional immaturity and the extent to which they are easily slighted, as well as angered, when they aren’t getting their way. Whatever you do, do not ignore this red flag.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
Number 3: They’re focused entirely on the physical.
Another sign you’re having s£x with a narcissist is that you’ll notice they’ll be focused on physical performance during s£x, with zero concern for emotional connection, true intim@cy, vulnerability, or any real tenderness. What’s interesting is that the narcissist will expect their partners to be physically and aesthetically perfect, even when the narcissists themselves are far from perfect in this regard. They’ll have little tolerance for any imperfections in physical appearance or performance, for that matter.
And who decides what these standards of perfection are? Well, the narcissist does, of course. If you’re with them for any length of time, you’ll notice that the narcissist’s standards of perfection will be a constantly moving target. No matter how hard you try, how lean, fit, or stunning you may be, it will never be good enough for the narcissist.
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