6. They stutter when sharing their life stories.
When narcissistic abuse victims share their stories, it’s like hitting a mental roadblock. Imagine trying to tell a story, but the words don’t flow right. Words get stuck, and you stutter or stumble through the sentences. Experts reckon this stuttering might be the brain’s way of handling the tough stuff. It’s like a defense mechanism trying to slow things down, sort through the emotions, and protect us from feeling overwhelmed. Psychologists think the mind attempts to cope with all the hurt and confusion tangled up in those experiences.
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7. They say “I’m sorry” all the time.
Victims of narcissistic abuse tend to over-apologize for little things. It’s like an automatic reflex left over from being made to feel at fault for everything by their abusers. Imagine someone accidentally steps on their shoe, yet they’re the ones saying sorry. That constant criticism messes with their sense of responsibility; it leaves them always on edge, fearing getting into big trouble even over tiny mistakes at work. Psychologists explain how this constant blame sticks; it makes them apologize for things they didn’t do. Therapy and support can help them break this cycle and rewire that automatic response. These victims must realize they no longer have to carry that weight around.
8. They avoid eye contact during conversations.
Avoiding eye contact in conversations can be a thing for people who’ve been through narcissistic abuse. Imagine whenever you speak up, you get shot down or criticized. That might make you uneasy about locking eyes with someone while talking. Psychologists think this comes from feeling constantly put down by a narcissist. It’s like a reflex; your brain worries eye contact might mean more hurt. So, when you try to chat, looking someone in the eye might feel like opening yourself up to criticism. Experts say it’s a shield against potential harm; it is a protective move that sticks around even after escaping the abuse.
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