Number 6: “Stop controlling me.”
When you say “stop controlling me”, narcissists still feel like they’ve lost control of their world. They’re used to having everything their way, and it can be very frustrating for them when they don’t. They’ll feel like you’re challenging their Authority and they’ll be more likely to lash out. However, you must do this without being aggressive or confrontational… you want to be firm but kind, and let them know that you will not tolerate getting manipulated. Narcissists will more likely respect your wishes if you calmly do this.
Number 7: “I expect you to act more responsibly.”
Narcissists need to feel superior to others, so when you call them out on their irresponsible actions, it’s like an attack on their very being. Narcissists so often try to shift the blame for their actions onto someone else and deny responsibility. When you call them out on it, they’ll likely get angry with you because it makes them feel powerless and weak.
They will try to make you feel guilty for calling them out, but this is just an attempt to control you. They don’t want anyone pointing out their flaws because it makes them feel like they aren’t perfect and have no control over the situation. That may be why narcissists often lash out at others when they get called out on their mistakes.
Number 8: “You have no idea what the truth is.”
Truth and narcissists do not mix well. As someone who always hides behind a false identity, telling them they don’t know the truth is a slap in their face. Narcissists try not to face the truth, for they fear it may lead them to admit they are weak. That is why when you say these words to narcissists, they will get crushed by the amount of weakness and vulnerability they have that they always hide. They will wake up from their made-up reality and get forced to feel their hurts and insecurities. There are only two reactions narcissists would have in this situation: Be depressed or be vengeful towards you.
Recommended: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
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