9. Emotional Detachment.
This does not make us closer. You may think s£x deepens your connection with a narcissist—unfortunately, because of your s£xµal trauma bond—but that’s not true. They pretend that it’s bringing them close to you, but deep down, they know the truth: they are not there. As I explained earlier, they’re emotionally detached. No matter how passionate, how loving, or how intense the moment feels, they are giving a performance. The proof of which is how the same narcissist will be so disconnected and dispassionate the next time you try to get intimate with them.
This is why a lot of people say, “Oh, in the beginning, it was great, but then I don’t know what happened. He or she hardly is interested in me. What did I do wrong? Have I gained weight? Lost weight? Do I look ugly?” It’s not about you; it’s about them. In the beginning, it was the thrill of getting you. It was the thrill of making you think they could be the best partner ever. Now that you are in their trap already, they don’t care anymore.
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10. Post-Intimacy Coldness.
I have to get away from you right now. Once a narcissist has gotten what they wanted—which is basically rubbing their body against yours—they might want to pull away. There is no connection after physical intimacy. Normal, non-narcissistic folks might want to hug, cuddle, spend some time together, talk about some things, and you know, get really deep with things. But a narcissist feels suffocated by that closeness. They may just want to go away. They may want you to leave them alone, or they may want to pick a fight. Would you believe that?
Basically, they will act all cold and distant. The answer to that is one and very simple: they have gotten what they wanted. Now they don’t need you anymore. You were a toy that has been used and thrown away. Now you become irritating to them. You need to understand this: in a narcissist’s brain, you are a role, and you have to function exactly as per their expectations. The minute you expect a little bit more, they go crazy and get angry, because as per them and as per the rules, the job specifications, that is not on the list. So you will get punished.
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