7. You may argue but in the end…
A seventh thing that they can pick up on is you may argue, but in the end, your assertions are weak. Now, you may be loud and abrasive and all like that when the narcissists come on and they’re controlling or condemning or condescending kind of ways, but in the end, they know your bark is louder than your bite. And you don’t really have good consequences. And so, it’s like, ‘Yeah, argue all you want.’ They love to argue back anyway because they like the competition. Gives them that much more reason to say, ‘I need to squash you.’ That can be something that they pick up on.
Related: 10 Weird Mannerisms of People Abused By Narcissists.
8. Your moods are too dependent upon others.
When they pick up on the fact that your moods can be way too easily dependent upon other people. They notice that even though you may have a desire to be one way and have your inner sense of calmness and all, but other individuals, when they come along, that can get you off course. It’s like those are the kind of people I like, people that are too dependent because I want you to depend on me. And they won’t admit that they’re dependent on you in reverse, but when you don’t have that sense of inner independence, they interpret that as good. You don’t have any resolve to build upon. I can work with that. That’s the way they think.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
9. You’re often in a bad mood.
It could be that you’re often in a bad mood. And you may think that becomes fuel for their soul. It’s like, yeah, because they take that as permission to treat you dirty anyway. ‘Well, she’s always in a crummy mood, and he’s always mad at someone.’ And again, if you’re sullen or you’re easily annoyed or you’re prickly, it’s like, ‘Well, you need somebody to shut you down. You need somebody to tell you what to do.’ And so, they’ll just take your bad mood and your chronic irritability as a reason for them to be the dominant partner. Strange how that works, but that’s how they think.
10. You may ask questions, but…
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